In the Beginning…
You found one another, navigated dating complexities and are now in a committed relationship. Communication wasn’t perfect (whose is?) but you felt like your partner had your back and you enjoyed your relationship and the world through rainbow-colored glasses. It felt fantastic to have finally found ‘the one’.
The cocoon you two created together opened and you began to face the outside world. You realize there were some differences you had not anticipated. Issues such as different levels of being ‘out’, blurred boundaries with ex’s, and family drama began to pierce the safety you had created. Lesbian couples don’t have so many role models to lean upon; communication became difficult and your connection was strained. You started to see more differences than similarities and you weren’t so sure your partner had your back, after all.
There is stress on the relationship. You aren’t sure how to navigate individual versus couple issues, especially when they feel competing. Conflicts are occurring over little things that many straight couples don’t deal with. You both need the connection and strength of the other, but you feel misunderstood and not valued at times. Navigating through all these ISSUES feels overwhelming; sometimes it just feels bigger than both of you.
One or both of you think, “I am worried I am not the person you need me to be.” or “I am afraid you will get tired of this and leave me.”
I get it.
You had a good foundation but the complexities of living as a lesbian couple in a straight world put strain on an otherwise stable couple. You have had to face things as individuals and as a couple and haven’t always had the communication abilities to do this successfully. All these challenges are fraying your connection. If we understand it, we have ways to address it.
Having tools to navigate through complicated conversations without hurting one another.
Managing conflicts in a way that promotes growth and strength in the relationship.
Repairing the hurts that have occurred so you can move forward together as a team.
Connecting in a deeper and more authentic manner.
I Can Help
1. Right now, get some free tools and tips to start making things better TODAY. In my videos and blogs, you will learn about your relationship and also how I work.
2. Sign up for my emails. In them, I include activities you can do to help your relationship’s connection, links to current blogs/videos, and updates on things I am doing to be helpful to couples.
3. Take action and make significant change in your relationship by attending either my Hold Me Tight® Semi-private Workshop or my Hold Me Tight® Private Retreat. Over the course of two days, you will learn tools and practice skills that will change how you communicate and even possibly transform your relationship.
Which is Best for You, Workshop or Retreat?
You know your relationship best. Look over the two options below and choose the one that fits you and your relationship’s needs.
“Hold Me Tight Workshops®” for Couples
If you are experiencing some periods of disconnection but are able to navigate them without scarring, the Workshop provides a generalized format that teaches you tools and give you practice so you can understand one another better. You learn concrete skills to communicate on a deeper level, address conflicts, and connect with understanding and compassion.
Private Couples and Marriage Retreats
If your relationship is experiencing significant distress due to the challenge of complicated conversations and issues of difference, I recommend Private Retreat option. With this option, you learn all the skills I teach in a workshop: concrete skills to communicate on a deeper level, address conflicts, and connect with understanding and compassion. The Retreat allows you complete privacy, my full attention, and the ability to create a weekend based on your schedule and focused on your relationship’s unique needs so you can become a unified front, once again. I see relationships improve significantly in the Workshop. Relationships are transformed in Private Retreats.
Either way, we will get you started back onto that path where you can communicate and connect with your partner again.
I want you to succeed!
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