Lesbian Relationships Can Have the Most Magical Emotional Connection
As two women, you have a strength so many relationships don’t have…that amazing emotional connection. Being understood by one another instinctively, due to your ‘sameness’, combined with the ability to express emotions and a willingness to PROCESS them can be a formula for strong, nurturing, and sustaining relationship.
Lesbian Relationships have Stressors Others Don’t Have
As comforting and comfortable as your similarities are, you are still two individuals. And you are lesbians in a straight world.
Issues such as different levels of being ‘out‘, blurred boundaries with ex’s, sexual intimacy and family ‘drama’ are some of that things that can begin to challenge your feeling of safety in your relationship.
When Your Best Friend is Your Partner or Wife, It’s Fantastic…and Difficult
You connected and became involved with your girlfriend (partner or wife) because you had so much in common and felt really understood. The intensity of that connection becomes the intensity of the pain when you don’t ‘feel heard’ by her. Lesbian partners depend on one another as friends, so when things aren’t good, you can feel very alone.
You Miss Your Connection
And you miss your best friend. You are not sure how to get back to the ease and joy of the relationship you had. Conflicts over small and big things can start coming up, along with feelings of insecurity, loneliness, and doubt. Navigating through all the ISSUES can feel overwhelming; sometimes it just feels bigger than both of you.
Connecting in a deeper and more authentic manner.
Having tools to navigate through complicated conversations without hurting one another.
Managing conflicts in a way that promotes growth and strength in the relationship.
Repairing the hurts that have occurred so you can move forward together as a team.
I get it.
I Had My Share of U-Haul’s too.
If You Were Building Something, You Would Make Sure You Have the Tools
Why is your relationship any different? It’s not!
From my own life experience and work as a couples therapist and relationship coach, I consistently see that lesbian couples want the connection and their relationship to work, but they don’t have the tools.
Consider Me as Your ‘Home Depot’
Each relationship (and project) has different needs and a different budget. Explore the options below and see which of my ‘tools’ are the best fit for you and your relationship.
I have videos and blogs for my clients in general. I will be creating lesbian-specific blogs, but these are good for all relationships.
My ONLINE Workshops are a fast and comfortable way to learn tools in 2 days. I have mixed group and Lesbian-only Workshops.
Private Retreats give you the tools and also work on addressing specific difficulties in your relationship. These are in-person or ONLINE.
Free Stuff to Help Your Relationship
I strongly encourage you to sign up for my emails. In them, I include activities you can do to help your relationship’s connection, links to current blogs/videos, and updates on things I am doing to be helpful to couples.
I post 2 or 3 times a week with short tips, articles I find helpful, and some Facebook LIVES. This resource is not lesbian-specific.
If You are Ready to Get the Power Tools, Attend a Retreat or Workshop
You know your relationship best. Look over the two options below and choose the one that fits you and your relationship’s needs.
Intensive Couples Therapy or Marriage Retreats for Lesbian Couples
If your relationship is experiencing significant distress due to the challenge of complicated conversations and issues of difference, I recommend the Private Retreat. With this option, you learn all the skills I teach in a workshop. Additionally, specific areas of concern are given time and attention so you leave with things resolved, in addition to your tools.
The Retreat allows you complete privacy, my full attention, and the ability to create a weekend based on your schedule and focused on your relationship’s unique needs. I see relationships improve significantly in the Workshop. Relationships are transformed in Private Retreats.
ONLINE Hold Me Tight Couples Workshop for Lesbians
If you are experiencing some periods of disconnection but are able to navigate them without scarring, the Workshop provides a generalized format that teaches you tools and give you practice so you can understand one another better. You learn concrete skills to communicate on a deeper level, address conflicts, repair hurts, and connect with understanding and compassion.
Limited to just 3 couples, I present to you in a group format. For the practice portion, each couple has a virtual ‘room’, so your private conversations are kept private. I know ‘ONLINE’ workshops can be tedious, so I thoughtfully balance your time between watching me on the screen and interacting with your partner.
Whatever tools you choose, I know I can be helpful.
I want you to succeed!
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