FAQS for Couples and Marriage Intensives & Retreats

I want you to succeed!

When you are looking for help in your relationship, you feel overwhelmed and distressed

I get that. I also know this may be your one opportunity to reconnect and save your relationship. The stakes are high.

Due to that, I want you to feel comfortable, even confident, that I am a good fit for you…that I can help you succeed. Learn the details of my Retreats and Intensives below.

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FAQS: Private Couples Retreats and Therapy Intensives

What’s the difference between ‘Retreats’ and ‘Intensives’?

Retreats are an opportunity to improve your relationship overall. It’s a time for you to focus on your relationship in a different space that is supportive and nurturing. I function more as a relationship coach and teach you tools to improve your relationship’s connection.

Intensives are retreats that have a therapy component to address significant relationship challenges. It’s intensive, but not overwhelming. Just like an amazing piece of music builds from a simple beginning, these Intensives allow us to go gradually deeper to get to address the issue and an effective solution.

You may not be clear which is the best fit for your needs. Based on the Relationship Assessment, I will be able to make a clear recommendation of what I think would be most helpful for you.

How long are Private Couples Retreats or Intensives?

There are two options:

Two days: generally Friday/Saturday or Saturday/Sunday 9-4, plus 2 individual sessions are scheduled before the Retreat/Intensive and 1 follow-up session is scheduled after the Retreat/Intensive. (Lunch is 45 minutes both days, on your own, with optional ‘homework’). It’s 17 hours in total; equaling 4 months of weekly sessions.

Three days: This option is ideal for situations where there is significant damage, such as an affair or a betrayal. These Retreats/Intensives are generally Friday/Saturday/Sunday 9-4. Like the two day option, 2 individual sessions are scheduled before the Retreat/Intensive and 1 follow-up session is scheduled after the Retreat/Intensive. This is 24 hours in total; equaling 6 months worth of weekly sessions.

Any Retreat or Intensive can be two or three days with the exception of the Affair Recovery & Betrayal Repair Intensive. Due to the complexity of hurt involved, the Affair and Betrayal Intensive must be three days.

What are the scheduling options?

I schedule Retreats and Intensives from Friday through Monday. Generally, couples prefer a Friday/Saturday schedule so they have a day to rest before returning to work. Three day Retreats and Intensives are generally Friday-Sunday but may be Saturday-Monday if needed.

Share your scheduling needs with me and I will find something that works. These Retreats and Intensives are all about helping you and your relationship succeed.

Where do we have our Private Couples Retreat or Intensive?

I offer three different location options:

  • Online
  • My Place
  • Your Choice

Learn about the different Retreat locations here.

Do we stay overnight?

No, these are daytime only. They generally start at 9 and end at 4, although minor time adjustments can be made.

How many couples attend?

Just you. I work with only one couple at a time; you have my complete attention, time, and focus.

What do we receive during a Private Couples Retreat or Intensive?

17 or 24 hours of my one-on-one attention (the equivalent of 4-6 month’s worth of traditional weekly sessions).

Resource Workbook with summaries and exercises to take home.

Relationship Assessment Sessions (one with each of you prior to your Retreat/Intensive).

Uniquely designed Retreat or Intensive, based on your needs and goals.

Structured practice of relationship tools.

Beverages and snacks to nurture and sustain you during our time together (if our Retreat/Intensive is at my location).

Special gift I created for you to use at home for a better connection.

Email summary of tools and strategies you used during our time together and some additional relationship tips that are helpful for couples in general.

Follow-up 1 hour video session to address additional issues and support your progress.

Exclusive access to subsequent relationship coaching with me, based on availability in my schedule.

What are the steps to enrolling and attending a Retreat or Intensive?

Step One – The Consultation

Contact me to ask questions and set up a video consultation.

During the consultation, we review your relationship’s struggles and the kind of help you are wanting. You will learn more about how I work and if I am the right person or ‘fit’ for you. It’s also my opportunity to assess and make sure I am the best fit for you, from my perspective. I want you to succeed, so we all need to feel confident about our work together.

We discuss the types of Retreats and Intensives, length, and location options, so you have all the information after your consultation.

Step Two – After the Consultation

Most couples spend time thinking about the options and reading the information again. Generally people do not make a decision during the consultation.

If you decide to work with me, we schedule your Retreat/Intensive! A 50% deposit is required at this time and we clarify the type, length and location.

Step Three – Confirmation and Intake

You each receive a confirmation email with the specifics that we have agreed upon. Additionally, you each receive a link to my client portal where you complete a confidential “Relationship Questionnaire” and necessary paperwork.

Step Four – Relationship Assessment Individual Sessions

One month prior to your Retreat or Intensive date, I contact each of you to schedule your individual Relationship Assessment Session. During this video session, I learn more about your own history, your history of relationships, perspective on your current relationship and goals for the Retreat/Intensive.

Step Five – Final Payment and Details

One week before your Retreat or Intensive, the final payment is due. This is when we tie up any loose ends, such as snacks you would enjoy and any concerns you have.

Step Six – The Retreat or Intensive

We meet and you begin to see your partner differently within the first few hours! I balance it between lecture, video clips, and guided conversations you have with your partner. Every Retreat and Intensive is different, but the first day is focused on establishing a solid foundation for your communication.

On the second and possibly third day, you continue to practice and strengthen your relationship skills as you go deeper and address the barriers/struggles to authentic connection.

Step Seven – Follow-up Email

Within a few days of the Retreat or Intensive, you will receive an email summarizing many of the tools you learned. Additionally, I give a list of general relationship tips that are concise and actionable. This email and list help you maintain your gains.

Step Eight – Follow-up Couples Session

Held over video, this is your session to review tools, bring up struggles, celebrate successes, and/or create a plan to continue your progress.

Step Nine – Afterwards

Couples are often anxious or even sad to ‘leave the nest’ after their Retreats or Intensives. I want you to succeed and I know it takes time and practice to change relationship patterns that have occurred over years (or even decades).

Once we end our work, you may reach out to me for ‘tune-ups’ or additional work, if warranted (and based on my availability). If we do that, the work will not be traditional couples therapy. I will assist you as a relationship coach–continuing to be very focused on strengthening your skills and improving your relationship at home.

Again, I truly want you to succeed!

What is the cost?

Each Private Retreat or Intensive may be two or three days; with the exception of the Affair Recovery & Betrayal Intensive, which is three days only.

The two-day option is a total of 17 hours (approximately 4 month’s worth of traditional weekly work) and costs $3,650 (online) or $3,900 (in-person).

The three-day option is a total of 24 hours (approximately 6 month’s worth of traditional weekly work) and costs $4,700 (online) or $5,200 (in-person).

Does insurance cover this?

Insurance companies support the more conservative treatment approach of hour-long, weekly couples sessions. I am able to bill some portions of the Retreat/Intensive, if you have out-of-network benefits.

One relevant aspect of using your insurance is that the insurance company requires I give a mental health diagnosis and the insurance company will have indefinite access to my notes and your record. When the insurance company is involved, your privacy is not complete, unfortunately.

How successful are these Retreats and Intensives?

The model used, Emotionally Focused Therapy, has a 90% success rate at reducing distress in couples.

Every couple I have worked with has left in a better place. Most couples move forward on the path of strengthening their connection and enjoying their relationship more.

Even if a couple decides not to continue their relationship, they are able to engage in more productive and compassionate conversations after this. The understanding and communication tools gained make co-parenting and other interactions more effective and less combative.

Empty Nester age couple dancing together; apparently falling in love again. This image is meant to represent emotionally connection, mutual respect, and rebuilding trust in a healthy relationship; tools learned from a Private Hold Me Tight couples therapy retreat in Massachusetts or a private Hold Me Tight couples therapy retreat in New England.

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Relationships are transformed in my Private Retreats and Intensives.