Does This Sound Like You?:
In your relationship, one of you may feel:
- exhausted from trying to make this relationship better
- unheard and misunderstood
- your partner perceives or labels you as ‘needy’, ‘negative’, or a ‘complainer’
- feels alone and lonely in this relationship
- rejected or not appreciated by your partner
While the other one of you may feel:
- like you are constantly walking on eggshells, trying to avoid conflicts
- frustrated your partner can never seem to ‘let issues go’
- your partner perceives you as cold, non-caring, or shut-down
- talking just leads to conflicts and nothing ever changes
- whatever you do, it’s never good enough for your partner
As a couple, you:
- keep getting stuck in the same conflict, no matter the topic
- feel hopeless and weary
- don’t feel ‘safe’ to discuss emotion-laden topics
- no longer know how to communicate or connect consistently
You Were Not Born Knowing How to Create a Good Relationship.
You try your best, of course! But you are learning as you go, without clear guidance on how to be an effective partner and have a healthy relationship. It can be painful and difficult without relationship skills, as you both ‘learn by doing’.
Being about to communicate without wondering when the next conflict will occur. When a conflict does occur, knowing how to resolve it quickly, without it dragging on for days and being able to apologize successfully so the issues don’t become a weapon for the next fight. All the while, feeling appreciated and emotionally connected.
My wife and I were at a standstill; plagued by negative behaviors. After 2 days, I really feel like we’re in a much better place, feeling connected and understood and heard…something we’ve looked for for a long time. We’ve been given the tools to reconcile and improve, which I’m thankful for. Now, it’s on us to do the work.”Mark, HMT attendee, 2018
Different Couples Have Different Needs, So You Have Options
Whether you choose an ONLINE “Hold Me Tight®” Workshop or a Private Marriage Retreat, I give you the skills and tools to understand what is not working in your relationship and I help you make things better.
ONLINE “Hold Me Tight Workshop®”: A Relationship Skills Program for Couples
ONLINE “Hold Me Tight Workshops®” are not therapy; it’s not sitting with a therapist, blaming one another for the relationship problems. “Hold Me Tight®” is an educational program focused on teaching you tools to improve communication skills, reduce conflict, and deepen your physical and emotional connection
Over two days, you learn and practice relationship skills so that YOU can make your relationship better. As a result, you have the skills to work on your relationship on your own. This will help your work if you are currently seeing a couples therapist. For many couples, they learn enough skills that they do not require couples therapy.
My Workshops use the traditional “Hold Me Tight Workshop®” protocol but, unlike most Workshops, mine is online and has a semi-private format of just 3 couples.
Additionally, although I am a couples and marriage therapist, and bring all my knowledge to Workshops, this is not therapy. I work with you as a Relationship Coach and our work is a hands-on, skilled-based application of relationship tools.
A Private Couples and Marriage Retreat: Intensive Couples Therapy and More
I understand that you are both hurting and need intense help quickly. Through meeting in a Retreat format, we are able to do 4 months of work in 2 days! It is truly amazing how much we can resolve and address.
As a couples and marriage therapist, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy, to address your ‘stuck’ places. Based on your input, I create a uniquely designed treatment plan, focused on your struggles, goals, and skills to get you there. My approach is balanced, though, between delving into your relationship struggles and also teaching you the relationship and communication skills I teach with my “Hold Me Tight®” Workshops.
My Private Retreats incorporate the “Hold Me Tight®” framework; over two days, you learn the tools that you would in the Workshop. In addition, retreats have the benefit of complete privacy, a uniquely designed treatment plan, flexibility, and complete focus on you, your relationship and on making things better.
Through attending a Private Couples Retreat with me at New England Hold Me Tight, you gain the benefit of addressing the ongoing issues that have plagued your relationship. In addition, you gain the “Hold Me Tight Workshop®” skills that include learning practical skills to improve your communication skills, rebuild trust and re-establish a physical and emotional connection.
The focus and depth of the Retreat not only changes how you do things, it transforms your relationship.
We were on the brink of divorce…I almost cannot believe how incredibly effective this was in solving our communication breakdown. It taught us to see each other’s hidden messages and needs underneath the anger, resentment, and distance that had developed. I am walking away with a powerful toolbox to tackle any problems or communication breakdowns we may have in the future.”Jennifer, HMT attendee, 2018
Dr. Sue Johnson developed Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT has a 90% success rate at reducing distress in couples. During her research, she determined that successful couples in healthy relationships benefit from engaging in specific conversations. These conversations are the basis of her book “Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love”. Her Workshop protocol, based on the book, is called the “Hold Me Tight Workshop®”.
Here is a helpful podcast with Dr. Sue Johnson. Listen to it to learn more about the science and philosophy behind EFT and “Hold Me Tight Workshops®”.
Help You Learn Communication Tools and Improve Your Relationship Skills
Our time together is a balance between learning information and practical application. During the two days, you will:
—Make sense of your emotional disconnections by learning the science behind it.
–Improve your relationship by changing the poor communication strategies you commonly use when disconnected.
–Apply tools to reduce conflicts.
–Learn how to apologize and actually mend an ‘issue’ while we are together, finally putting it to rest.
—Practice and learn communication skills to speak about difficult topics, such as sex and money.
–Above all, communicate authentically and emotionally connect with your partner.
The ONLINE “Hold Me Tight Workshop®” and Private Relationship Retreats Have Follow-up
After your Workshop or Retreat, you are automatically added to a weekly email where I share tools and tips to help your relationship. We have a private online follow-up approximately two weeks later.
Soon after you finish your Workshop or Retreat, ongoing support is available through a private Facebook group for my “Hold Me Tight®” alumnae only. This group has access to me, supplemental information, and support from other members who have learned “Hold Me Tight®” from me.
If needed, I provide continued support after your intensive work is complete. Many couples do not require this, but it’s an option if your relationship needs more after-care.
Immediately or months later, I am always available to continue our work to strengthen your tools and connection even further.
If you currently have a couples therapist, I share our work so that your tools and learning can be transitioned into your ongoing work with that provider.
Begin Improving Your Relationship or Marriage Today
You don’t have to feel alone in your relationship–struggling to communicate and having so many conflicts over the smallest of things. There is hope for your marriage or relationship.
“Hold Me Tight®” Private Couple Retreats and “Hold Me Tight Workshops®” for Couples both can help you achieve a healthier relationship help. Although they have different intensities, you learn communication strategies, relationship tools and rebuild trust in both. New England Hold Me Tight has experienced therapists and skilled relationship coaches who specialize in helping couples like you who want to save a marriage or fix a relationship.
To start on your path towards a healthier relationship, follow these simple steps:
1. Contact Bri McCarroll at New England Hold Me Tight.
2. Soon after that, meet for a free 20-minute consultation (video or in office).
3. Decide which option is better for you, a Private Couples Retreat or a Couples Workshop
Either option, we will get you started back onto that path where you communicate and connect with your partner once again.
4. Re-connect again.
Additional Relationship Tips to Help Now
I want you to succeed. So while you are considering which option to use, learn some communication strategies and relationship skills NOW. Check out my FREE videos and blogs.
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