Helpful Ideas

The Impact Our Relationships Have on Us (Part 2 of 4): The Science Behind Our Relationships Series–VIDEO/BLOG

This video continues to explore the science behind our relationships.

The signs we can be looking for to help us know “How are we doing in our relationship? Do we feel secure with each other in this relationship?” and some signs that we might see when it is not so secure. So both the good news and the bad news.

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Wired for Connection (Part 1 of 4): The Science Behind Our Relationships Series–VIDEO/BLOG

You meet someone and become entranced by them and then you eventually get into a relationship. You don’t really know what happened that actually caused that to happen. But, it’s not like it’s magic. It may feel that way, but it’s not.

There’s actually a science behind it and that’s what I am going to discuss.

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3 Goals for a Healthy Relationship–BLOG

It is a new year and you may have made some New Year’s resolutions. Yay you! One of the first steps towards making a change in your life is envisioning what you want and then setting some goals towards it.

In case you are envisioning an improved relationship this year, I am hoping to give a little guidance.

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Helping Your Partner With 'Complicated Family'–VIDEO/BLOG

“Complicated family”

You have your own strategies for managing your more ‘difficult’ relations.

Seeing your partner struggle, though, through painful family drama can trigger a myriad of emotions in you: helplessness, frustration, isolation, and disconnect; to name a few.

You want to help your partner (which indirectly, will also help you), but are not sure how. This video/blog gives some concrete suggestions.

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Developing an "Attitude of Gratitude" For Your Relationship–VIDEO/BLOG

This video/blog focuses on what can happen to our relationships when we take them for granted, the benefits of appreciating we have a relationship, and an activity to help develop that appreciation.

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How to Show Appreciation in Your Relationship So That You Both Benefit–VIDEO/BLOG

“I just don’t feel appreciated by my partner…I don’t feel that he acknowledges what I am doing and he just doesn’t seem to appreciate me.”

Learn some benefits of showing appreciation in your relationship and ways to make your efforts a bit more effective.

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Why It's Hard to See the Good in Our Partners–VIDEO/BLOG

VIDEO: When you feel disconnected in your relationship, it’s easy to see the bad and be critical about your partner; it can become hard to find the good. We start wondering if we are ‘negative’ or what is wrong with us.

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How to 'Be There' for Your Partner–BLOG

Your partner comes to you stressed out. You want to help her; make things better. So, you start making suggestions on what she should do.

She replies, “I don’t need you to fix it, I just need you to listen!”

You feel at a loss as to what to do; you thought you were being helpful. Confused and hurt, you become quiet.

She continues, “Here we go. I try to talk with you about things and you just shut down or don’t respond. You can’t just be there for me.”

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Our Relationship Conflicts: Two Sides of the Same Coin–BLOG

When we have a conflict, it can appear like a big mess of emotions, words, expressions, and actions. Underneath all of that, there’s actually a pattern that is pretty consistent, even if the topics may vary.

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How to Avoid 'Cornering Questions'–BLOG

You ask your partner, “Did you miss me?”
Your partner’s heart skips a beat. You have just asked one of those sticky ‘yes/no’ questions (I fondly call these ‘cornering questions’ as it places your partner in a corner where he/she is stuck with no ‘right’ answer)!

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