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5 Ways to Help Your Teen During the COVID Quarantine–BLOG

Kids are sleeping too much, showing less motivation, not following through on tasks. Socially, we see them isolating from peers and not cooperating at home (moreso than normal for a teenager). Their mental health is becoming one more thing that is worrying us in our battle against COVID and our struggle with the quarantine.

Woman with fire on her back going into the cold in front of her. This signifies the change that occurs in relationships after attending an emotionally focused couples therapy intensive in Maine, Connecticut, or Massachusetts.

Our Mothers are Burning Out – COVID Fatigue and What to Do About It–VIDEO

Mothers with children at home (young or adult) have been on the COVID frontline. They are protecting their family and home from an invisible enemy through diligent effort and hypervigilance, but at a cost.

Mothers have been describing a set of consistent symptoms; I now consider these symptoms as a part of something I am calling “COVID Fatigue”.

Outline of house with window looking out at tree. Image meant to signify feeling trapped and the improved communication skills and emotional connection achieved from attending intensive marriage counseling in Massachusetts such as a Hold Me Tight Workshop in Massachusetts.

Date Nights When You Can’t Leave the House Due to COVID–BLOG

“My husband and I really need a date night, but it’s not happening during COVID.”

“The only privacy I get is when I go to the bathroom! It’s impossible to have a private conversation with my partner in this house.”

This blog is geared at helping you think ‘outside of the box’ regarding finding a space for a date night.

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1,000 Soft Touches–ACTIVITY

“1,000 Soft Touches” involves doing the ‘little things’ for your partner so he/she feels SEEN and HEARD.

As much as people understand the idea, it’s often difficult for people to imagine what would be a ‘soft touch’.

Sign of infinity using blue and yellow/orange 'lights'. This signifies active listening pattern learned at New England Hold Me Tight at an eft marriage intensive in Massachusetts.

Slow Down Conflicts With ‘Infinity Listening’–VIDEO

I don’t feel heard in this relationship.” is a frequent complaint that I get when working with couples. Another is, “I don’t want to say anything as it will just make a big argument.”

Can you relate to either of these phrases? If so, it’s understandable you feel apprehensive of having conversations with your partner.

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10 Coping Strategies Used by Resilient Couples & Families During COVID

Everyone is feeling the impact of the social isolation and logistical complications of self-quarantining. During my online sessions with individuals and couples, I am seeing some coping more successfully than others. Here is a list of the strategies I am seeing the more resilient couples and families use.

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“What I Feel, What I Want, and What I Need”–COMMUNICATION ACTIVITY

Couples have conflicts more frequently during times of transition, such as when getting up in the morning, greeting one another at the end of the day, or getting things ready as kids do evening tasks.

This activity expresses each partner’s priorities quickly and clearly so both partners can work together, prioritizing needs and recognizing the feelings and wants of each other. 

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5 Tips for Self-care in Times of Stress and During COVID–BLOG

This is a time of stress for most of us. The media surrounds us with news of death and exposure numbers. The government initiates increasingly restrictive measures to contain the spread of COVID-19. Predictable realities, such as being able to buy toilet paper, are no longer predictable. Routine social connections are being discouraged. By ActivelyContinue reading “5 Tips for Self-care in Times of Stress and During COVID–BLOG”

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3 Goals for a Healthy Relationship–BLOG

It is a new year and you may have made some New Year’s resolutions. Yay you! One of the first steps towards making a change in your life is envisioning what you want and then setting some goals towards it.

In case you are envisioning an improved relationship this year, I am hoping to give a little guidance.

Light house with large ocean wave washing over it. Image represents how having a communication strategy helps couple resolve conflicts and practice how to apologize effectively. My New England Hold Me Tight workshops do this!

Helping Your Partner With ‘Complicated Family’–VIDEO/BLOG

“Complicated family”

You have your own strategies for managing your more ‘difficult’ relations.

Seeing your partner struggle, though, through painful family drama can trigger a myriad of emotions in you: helplessness, frustration, isolation, and disconnect; to name a few.

You want to help your partner (which indirectly, will also help you), but are not sure how. This video/blog gives some concrete suggestions.

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How to ‘Be There’ for Your Partner–BLOG

Your partner comes to you stressed out. You want to help her; make things better. So, you start making suggestions on what she should do.

She replies, “I don’t need you to fix it, I just need you to listen!”

You feel at a loss as to what to do; you thought you were being helpful. Confused and hurt, you become quiet.

She continues, “Here we go. I try to talk with you about things and you just shut down or don’t respond. You can’t just be there for me.”

Wh words surrounding a ? on chalk board. This image is meant to portray couples communication skills in Massachusetts from lesbian-friendly Hold Me Tight couples Workshops.

How to Avoid ‘Cornering Questions’–BLOG

You ask your partner, “Did you miss me?”
Your partner’s heart skips a beat. You have just asked one of those sticky ‘yes/no’ questions (I fondly call these ‘cornering questions’ as it places your partner in a corner where he/she is stuck with no ‘right’ answer)!

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Watch Your Words: “Yes…but”–BLOG

“I love this spaghetti, but the pasta is a bit mushy.”

You were trying to give a compliment…to connect through kind words. Unfortunately, all your partner heard was “The pasta is a bit mushy,” and is looking hurt and angry.