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1,000 Soft Touches–ACTIVITY

“1,000 Soft Touches” involves doing the ‘little things’ for your partner so he/she feels SEEN and HEARD. As much as people understand the idea, it’s often difficult for people to imagine what would be a ‘soft touch’.

Slow Down Conflicts With ‘Infinity Listening’–VIDEO

I don’t feel heard in this relationship.” is a frequent complaint that I get when working with couples. Another is, “I don’t want to say anything as it will just make a big argument.” Can you relate to either of these phrases? If so, it’s understandable you feel apprehensive of having conversations with your partner.

10 Coping Strategies Used by Resilient Couples & Families During COVID

Everyone is feeling the impact of the social isolation and logistical complications of self-quarantining. During my online sessions with individuals and couples, I am seeing some coping more successfully than others. Here is a list of the strategies I am seeing the more resilient couples and families use.

“What I Feel, What I Want, and What I Need”–COMMUNICATION ACTIVITY

Couples have conflicts more frequently during times of transition, such as when getting up in the morning, greeting one another at the end of the day, or getting things ready as kids do evening tasks. This activity expresses each partner’s priorities quickly and clearly so both partners can work together, prioritizing needs and recognizing the feelings…

5 Tips for Self-care in Times of Stress and During COVID–BLOG

This is a time of stress for most of us. The media surrounds us with news of death and exposure numbers. The government initiates increasingly restrictive measures to contain the spread of COVID-19. Predictable realities, such as being able to buy toilet paper, are no longer predictable. Routine social connections are being discouraged. By Actively…

3 Goals for a Healthy Relationship–BLOG

It is a new year and you may have made some New Year’s resolutions. Yay you! One of the first steps towards making a change in your life is envisioning what you want and then setting some goals towards it. In case you are envisioning an improved relationship this year, I am hoping to give…

Helping Your Partner With ‘Complicated Family’–VIDEO/BLOG

“Complicated family” You have your own strategies for managing your more ‘difficult’ relations. Seeing your partner struggle, though, through painful family drama can trigger a myriad of emotions in you: helplessness, frustration, isolation, and disconnect; to name a few. You want to help your partner (which indirectly, will also help you), but are not sure…

How to ‘Be There’ for Your Partner–BLOG

Your partner comes to you stressed out. You want to help her; make things better. So, you start making suggestions on what she should do. She replies, “I don’t need you to fix it, I just need you to listen!” You feel at a loss as to what to do; you thought you were being…

How to Avoid ‘Cornering Questions’–BLOG

You ask your partner, “Did you miss me?” Your partner’s heart skips a beat. You have just asked one of those sticky ‘yes/no’ questions (I fondly call these ‘cornering questions’ as it places your partner in a corner where he/she is stuck with no ‘right’ answer)!

Watch Your Words: “Yes…but”–BLOG

“I love this spaghetti, but the pasta is a bit mushy.” You were trying to give a compliment…to connect through kind words. Unfortunately, all your partner heard was “The pasta is a bit mushy,” and is looking hurt and angry.