Couples as Empty Nesters

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In the Beginning, You Knew How to Connect…

It was just you and your partner. You played together, shared common interests, and were able to communicate. You felt connected emotionally and physically; making a family together was the next natural step.

Then You Drifted Apart…

You began a new adventure together-raising a family. All that energy that you had focused on one another became directed at the kids.

It became hard to find time for those deep conversations, let alone have sex. You may have drifted into more fixed ‘roles’ in the household, feeling some resentment and not appreciated in the process. It was hard to talk about these changes, this is just ‘what happens’ to couples, right? You thought it would get better once the kids were gone.

Now You Have Relationship Problems and Disconnection.

The main things you had in common, the kids, are gone or soon will be. You look at your partner and wonder if you have fallen out of love. This is supposed to be an exciting time, a ‘second wind’ for couples, yet you feel sad and alone.

You finally have time and opportunity for physical intimacy but sex feels awkward and dissatisfying. All those years of focusing on parenting tasks have left you unsure how to reach for your partner, how to communicate. You want to live your best life, but you are wondering if you can in this relationship.

One or both of you think, “Without the kids here, we will have nothing in common. We will end up in divorce.” or I feel so alone, I want things to be different, but I don’t know how it can be.”

“What Now?”: Empty Nesters Often Feel Lost

You had a good foundation prior to creating a family and you lost yourselves along the way. You focused on nurturing your kids rather than your relationship.

It’s overwhelming to realize you both have poor communication, you don’t know how to connect and you are unsure if you have the ability and motivation to fix a broken relationship.


–Having communication skills so you can reconnect and grow together, rather than apart.
–Resolving conflicts effectively so there is mutual and a healthy relationship.
–Learning how to apologize to rebuild trust and repair some of the past betrayals and hurts so they stop coming up again, and again, and again…
–Engaging physically so you both felt emotionally connected.

Begin Improving Your Relationship or Marriage Today

You don’t have to feel hopeless or alone–stuck in a broken relationship. There is hope for your marriage or relationship.

Private Couples and Marriage Retreats and ONLINE “Hold Me Tight®” Couples Workshops give you and your relationship help. Although they have different intensities, in both, you learn communication skills, rebuild trust and create a new foundation for a healthy relationship.  New England Hold Me Tight has skilled couples therapists and relationship coaches who specialize in helping couples like you who want to save a marriage or repair a relationship.

ONLINE “Hold Me Tight®” Couples Workshops

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If you are experiencing distance and conflicts but are able to stay motivated to work through things, the Workshop may be sufficient.

With three other couples, you participate in a generalized format that teaches you tools and gives you practice so you can understand one another better. You learn concrete skills to communicate on a deeper level, address conflicts, and heal past hurts.  

Private Couples and Marriage Retreats

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If your relationship is experiencing so much distance and conflict that you are struggling to imagine staying together once the kids are gone, I recommend the “Hold Me Tight®” Private Retreat option. 

With this option, you learn concrete skills to communicate on a deeper level, address conflicts, and heal past hurts. The Retreat allows you complete privacy, my full attention, and the ability to create a weekend based on your schedule and focused on your relationship’s unique needs, to the depth that it needs. I see relationships improve significantly in the Workshop. Relationships are transformed in Private Retreats.   

To start on your path towards a healthier relationship, follow these simple steps:


I want you to succeed!

1. Contact Bri McCarroll at New England Hold Me Tight.

2. Meet for a free 50-minute consultation (video or in office).

3. Decide which option is better for you, a Private Couples and Marriage Retreat or a “Hold Me Tight®” Couples Workshop

Either option, we will get you started back onto that path where you communicate and connect with your partner once again.

4. Fall in love again.

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