We Make Your Relationship Better at New England Hold Me Tight

Does This Sound Like You?:

In your relationship, one of you may feel:

exhausted from trying to make this relationship better
unheard and misunderstood
your partner perceives or labels you as ‘needy’, ‘negative’, or a ‘complainer’
alone and lonely in this relationship
rejected or not appreciated by your partner

While the other one of you may feel:

like you are constantly walking on eggshells, trying to avoid conflicts
frustrated your partner can never seem to ‘let issues go’
your partner perceives you as cold, non-caring, or shut-down
talking just leads to conflicts and nothing ever changes
whatever you do, it’s never good enough for your partner

As a couple, you:

keep getting stuck in the same conflict, no matter the topic
feel hopeless and weary
don’t feel ‘safe’ to discuss emotion-laden topics
no longer know how to communicate or connect consistently

You Know Things are Difficult…You Just Want to Fix It

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How I Help Your Relationship

I don’t let you fight in front of me.

I don’t take sides.

Our work is not focused on analyzing old patterns and blaming one another.

Instead, I help you learn the science behind your relationship…why things work when they do and what happens when they don’t.

Then, I teach you clearly and concretely what to do when things are ‘broken’, when all that you tried is not working.

Lastly, you practice the skills, with your partner. We discuss real issues in real time so you get experience and confidence at addressing things differently.

You leave with tools (and a workbook) full of what you did, a detailed email within a week with recommendations to maintain your success, and an online follow-up session with me.

Lastly, once we have done this work, you may schedule future appointments, if needed, based on my schedule openings.

Young couple embracing with apparent love. The image is meant to represent falling in love and feeling emotionally close from attending a Hold Me Tight Workshop.

Evidence-based Treatment Helps Your Relationship

My work is a combination of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Positive Psychology, and relationship coaching.

Emotionally Focused Therapy has a 90% success rate at reducing distress in couples. Here is a helpful podcast with Dr. Sue Johnson. Listen to it to learn more about the science and philosophy behind EFT.

Positive Psychology is focused on the science of what contributes to our happiness and positive social interactions. I pull from this field in exercises you will engage in and communication strategies I teach.

As a relationship coach with over 25 years of working with couples, I have seen what works. I actively teach you ways to communicate and interact that are effective. And like a trainer at the gym, I am literally right by your side as you try out the strategies and I coach you so that you get it right, then keep doing it right. My work with you is active, set up to make you succeed, and done in a manner so you internalize your new skills.

Let’s Get Started and Make Things Better!

Young lesbian couple smiling at each other, feeling emotionally connected. Hold Me Tight Workshops help rebuild trust and save a marriage.

How a Couples Therapy Intensive Helps Your Relationship Better Than Weekly Therapy

We quickly create a safe space and ground rules so you both will be heard.

You dive deeper into the issues because we don’t have that 50 minute limit.

As a couple, your progress builds momentum as each successful conversation builds on top of the others.

Limited to no distractions; the time allows you to settle in and focus on the relationship, no matter what is happening outside.

You practice doing things differently ‘live’ in front of me with the intensive format. I coach you so you get it right and you keep practicing it until it’s automatic.

Over the 3 or 4 days, we go farther and make more progress than the average couple experiences with 6 to 8 months of weekly therapy.

Empty Nest age couple sitting together relaxed. Image represents a couple who had fallen out of love and felt not good enough prior to attending a Hold Me Tight Workshop. Couple now knows how to fix a marriage and resolve conflicts.

We were on the brink of divorce…I almost cannot believe how incredibly effective this was in solving our communication breakdown. It taught us to see each other’s hidden messages and needs underneath the anger, resentment, and distance that had developed. I am walking away with a powerful toolbox to tackle any problems or communication breakdowns we may have in the future.”
Mark

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My wife and I were at a standstill; plagued by negative behaviors. After 3 days, I really feel like we’re in a much better place, feeling connected and understood and heard…something we’ve looked for for a long time. We’ve been given the tools to reconcile and improve, which I’m thankful for. Now, it’s on us to do the work.”
Jennifer