Most people do not want to see a couples or marriage therapist.
It’s hard to imagine sharing your innermost fears with a stranger as an individual client. It’s even worse to imagine sharing the painful conversations, feelings and interactions that have been happening in your relationship as a couple.
Whatever secrets you two have harbored at home come out in the open during couples therapy. Although this is your ‘truth’, it can be a hard truth to face at times.
Seeing Me is Not at the Top of Your List
I get it. Although couples who see me consistently do well (especially those who attend my Private Couples and Marriage Retreats), I understand that seeing me is generally the LAST thing you want to try.
I have designed this page specifically for couples like you. Check out the free resources below and definitely contact me as I am developing a new product that is going to be my ‘Workshop in a Box’.
Review My Videos and Blogs
The topics for my videos and blogs are based on issues my couples are bringing up. Tools and techniques that I teach in the videos and blogs are the same ones I teach during my Retreats/Workshops and Couples Sessions.
Discuss My Videos and Blogs With Me on Facebook
I squirm at using Facebook, so my Facebook page is relatively new. The most exciting feature of my Facebook page is that I will be doing ‘Facebook Lives’ and discussing my blogs with whoever shows up. My page is ‘open’ so a variety of viewers view it. You will not be identified as a ‘struggling couple’ if you participate the page.
Consider ‘Liking’ my Facebook page so that you are alerted when I am doing a Facebook Live. Also, I send out small quotes/thoughts/ideas through that page. Lastly, I am aiming for three posts a week, maximum. You will not be overwhelmed with posts from me.
Sign up for My Emails
When I have new blogs or videos, I share these through emails; signing up for the bi-weekly email will help you be aware of new information and resources. Additionally, when I am creating new things, such as a Workshop or a product, email is how I talk about it.
My email box is full, so I don’t want to overwhelm yours. Due to that, I generally send out an email just once every two weeks. You can unsubscribe at any time, so I encourage you sign up below.
My ‘Workshop in a Box’
I understand that many couples do not want to work on their relationship with a group (even if there are only three other couples, such as in my Hold Me Tight Workshops). On the other hand, my Private Couples and Marriage Intensives may just be too costly. Due to those reasons, I am developing an additional option for couples.
I am creating a self-paced ‘Workshop’ that you can do on your own, at home. It will have me and all my information, along with various tools and supports, but you will be able to work on your relationship without sharing your information with others.
This is still in ‘creation’ mode; it is not ready to be published or distributed. Due to that, I am asking that people contact me if they want to be notified, once it’s ready.
Read “Hold Me Tight” by Dr. Sue Johnson
Dr. Sue Johnson created Emotionally Focused Therapy (the couples therapy model I use) and she designed the workshop protocol for Hold Me Tight Workshops.
Her book, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love is fairly easy reading. If there are some dry parts, it’s ok to skip them and continue on to more interesting sections. My couples consistently tell me the book makes sense and is helpful. So head on back to that ‘Self-help’ section at the bookstore!
You Have Resources
Don’t get discouraged. I know it’s tiring and you can start to feel hopeless after a bit.
Research has come a long way in helping couples; there is so much scientifically-based information out there (like what I present). Review what I suggested above and know that help is out there.
Truly, I want you to succeed.