Reduce conflict Archives - New England Hold Me Tight

1,000 Soft Touches–ACTIVITY

White feather against blue sky background. This signifies the light touch of emotional connection learned from eft marriage intensives in Massachusetts or emotionally focused intensive couples therapy in Massachusetts.

“1,000 Soft Touches” involves doing the ‘little things’ for your partner so he/she feels SEEN and HEARD.

As much as people understand the idea, it’s often difficult for people to imagine what would be a ‘soft touch’.

Slow Down Conflicts With ‘Infinity Listening’–VIDEO

Sign of infinity using blue and yellow/orange 'lights'. This signifies active listening pattern learned at New England Hold Me Tight at an eft marriage intensive in Massachusetts.

I don’t feel heard in this relationship.” is a frequent complaint that I get when working with couples. Another is, “I don’t want to say anything as it will just make a big argument.”

Can you relate to either of these phrases? If so, it’s understandable you feel apprehensive of having conversations with your partner.

How Using “YOU” Can Make a Mess of “Us”–BLOG

Silhouette of angry couple arguing. This image is meant to portray the benefit of attending a couples therapy retreat in Massachusetts or an EFT marriage intensive in Massachusetts.

“You are doing it again.”
“You are not listening to me.”
Sometimes, you are attempting to express and connect with your partner and stumble into a conflict innocently by the use of ‘you’.