Connecting Archives - New England Hold Me Tight

1,000 Soft Touches–ACTIVITY

White feather against blue sky background. This signifies the light touch of emotional connection learned from eft marriage intensives in Massachusetts or emotionally focused intensive couples therapy in Massachusetts.

“1,000 Soft Touches” involves doing the ‘little things’ for your partner so he/she feels SEEN and HEARD.

As much as people understand the idea, it’s often difficult for people to imagine what would be a ‘soft touch’.

Slow Down Conflicts With ‘Infinity Listening’–VIDEO

Sign of infinity using blue and yellow/orange 'lights'. This signifies active listening pattern learned at New England Hold Me Tight at an eft marriage intensive in Massachusetts.

I don’t feel heard in this relationship.” is a frequent complaint that I get when working with couples. Another is, “I don’t want to say anything as it will just make a big argument.”

Can you relate to either of these phrases? If so, it’s understandable you feel apprehensive of having conversations with your partner.

Two Good Things Plus One Gift–RELATIONSHIP ACTIVITY

Two hands making heart shape around a daisy in grass. This signifies emotional connection for couples and improved communication for couples after attending a private marriage retreat in New Engalnd.

This exercise is about noticing and acknowledging good things daily to improve your mood. It also focuses on sharing good things we like about our partner to make a positive connection.

10 Coping Strategies Used by Resilient Couples & Families During COVID

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Everyone is feeling the impact of the social isolation and logistical complications of self-quarantining. During my online sessions with individuals and couples, I am seeing some coping more successfully than others. Here is a list of the strategies I am seeing the more resilient couples and families use.

5 Tips for Self-care in Times of Stress and During COVID–BLOG

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This is a time of stress for most of us. The media surrounds us with news of death and exposure numbers. The government initiates increasingly restrictive measures to contain the spread of COVID-19. Predictable realities, such as being able to buy toilet paper, are no longer predictable. Routine social connections are being discouraged. By ActivelyContinue reading “5 Tips for Self-care in Times of Stress and During COVID–BLOG”

How Using “YOU” Can Make a Mess of “Us”–BLOG

Silhouette of angry couple arguing. This image is meant to portray the benefit of attending a couples therapy retreat in Massachusetts or an EFT marriage intensive in Massachusetts.

“You are doing it again.”
“You are not listening to me.”
Sometimes, you are attempting to express and connect with your partner and stumble into a conflict innocently by the use of ‘you’.

“I Feel Loved & Special When”–CONNECTING ACTIVITY

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We want to show our partner we love them, but how? Let your partner share the answer with you in this activity!

The Impact Our Relationships Have on Us (Part 2 of 4): The Science Behind Our Relationships Series–VIDEO/BLOG

Man squeezing heart pillow. This is meant to symbolically portray holding a relationship dear, such as happens with emotionally focused intensive couples therapy in Massachusetts, New England.

This video continues to explore the science behind our relationships.

The signs we can be looking for to help us know “How are we doing in our relationship? Do we feel secure with each other in this relationship?” and some signs that we might see when it is not so secure. So both the good news and the bad news.

Wired for Connection (Part 1 of 4): The Science Behind Our Relationships Series–VIDEO/BLOG

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You meet someone and become entranced by them and then you eventually get into a relationship. You don’t really know what happened that actually caused that to happen. But, it’s not like it’s magic. It may feel that way, but it’s not.

There’s actually a science behind it and that’s what I am going to discuss.

3 Goals for a Healthy Relationship–BLOG

Silhouette of couople with arms raised in success. This image is meant to symbolize the relief from knowing how to grow together, resolve conflicts, and have mutual respect after attending a Hold Me Tightworkshop for Couples or a Private Couple and Marriage Retreat

It is a new year and you may have made some New Year’s resolutions. Yay you! One of the first steps towards making a change in your life is envisioning what you want and then setting some goals towards it.

In case you are envisioning an improved relationship this year, I am hoping to give a little guidance.