Kids are sleeping too much, showing less motivation, not following through on tasks. Socially, we see them isolating from peers and not cooperating at home (moreso than normal for a teenager). Their mental health is becoming one more thing that is worrying us in our battle against COVID and our struggle with the quarantine.
Mothers with children at home (young or adult) have been on the COVID frontline. They are protecting their family and home from an invisible enemy through diligent effort and hypervigilance, but at a cost.
Mothers have been describing a set of consistent symptoms; I now consider these symptoms as a part of something I am calling “COVID Fatigue”.
“My husband and I really need a date night, but it’s not happening during COVID.”
“The only privacy I get is when I go to the bathroom! It’s impossible to have a private conversation with my partner in this house.”
This blog is geared at helping you think ‘outside of the box’ regarding finding a space for a date night.
“1,000 Soft Touches” involves doing the ‘little things’ for your partner so he/she feels SEEN and HEARD.
As much as people understand the idea, it’s often difficult for people to imagine what would be a ‘soft touch’.
I don’t feel heard in this relationship.” is a frequent complaint that I get when working with couples. Another is, “I don’t want to say anything as it will just make a big argument.”
Can you relate to either of these phrases? If so, it’s understandable you feel apprehensive of having conversations with your partner.
This exercise is about noticing and acknowledging good things daily to improve your mood. It also focuses on sharing good things we like about our partner to make a positive connection.
Everyone is feeling the impact of the social isolation and logistical complications of self-quarantining. During my online sessions with individuals and couples, I am seeing some coping more successfully than others. Here is a list of the strategies I am seeing the more resilient couples and families use.
Couples have conflicts more frequently during times of transition, such as when getting up in the morning, greeting one another at the end of the day, or getting things ready as kids do evening tasks.
This activity expresses each partner’s priorities quickly and clearly so both partners can work together, prioritizing needs and recognizing the feelings and wants of each other.
“You are doing it again.”
“You are not listening to me.”
Sometimes, you are attempting to express and connect with your partner and stumble into a conflict innocently by the use of ‘you’.
It is a new year and you may have made some New Year’s resolutions. Yay you! One of the first steps towards making a change in your life is envisioning what you want and then setting some goals towards it.
In case you are envisioning an improved relationship this year, I am hoping to give a little guidance.